However, as we’ve also mentioned here several times, there are a variety of treatments for your ED. The first step, though, in addressing your concerns about ED is to be honest with yourself. Then with your partner and your doctor. Once you’re all honestly discussing your Erectile Dysfunction, coping with it as you select and go through treatment will be less stressful. Communication is essential to a successful diagnosis and treatment, as well as, helping your partner understand your feelings. Continue talking to your partner as your experiences and feelings change and evolve.
While you’re being treated for ED, it is important to be patient with your progress and keep in mind that everybody is different and that a treatment that might work for one person may not work or be appropriate for you. The treatment that is right for you is dependent on your situation. With your doctor, consider your physical condition. With your partner, consider the status of your relationship. It is also important to know that the treatment you, your partner and your doctor choose may not work the first time or may not work every time. We are proud that our patented Vacurect™ vacuum therapy system does have a documented 96% success rate.
Don’t ignore your psychological health either. You may be helped by emotional support from others. It may also help you to hear from some men who have ED and learn about their experiences. Contact your doctor about local support groups in your area. (If your partner is having trouble coping with your impotency, look into support groups for her, too. Many community organizations offer such groups for partners.) And, of course, a professional sex therapist may help some couples deal with the changes in their relationship that ED can bring.
Whether it’s with their doctor, partner or a support group, it's good to get men talking about their sexuality. But remember, there is more to being sexual than just having an erection. Jeanne Shaw, PhD, an Atlanta-based clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist explains in a WebMD article, "What I see as a problem is the public has been educated to believe that good sex requires an erect penis that stays hard through the entire sexual encounter. This definition of good sex changes the basic nature of an encounter from intimacy and pleasure to achievement and performance." This focus on performance, Shaw says, robs men and their partners of the opportunity to deepen their relationships -- and their sexuality. The sexual needs of adolescents, she says, are different from those of adults. Yet by making erections the be-all and end-all of sex, grown men are retreating to adolescent sexual values.
"Having an erection does not mean you are being sexual. Being sexual comes from inside your sense of yourself," Shaw says. "You can be sexual, you can feel sexual, you can behave sexually without an erection." In other words, with an understanding partner, some open communication and a little effort…you can cope!
Shaw makes a distinction between genital behavior and sexual behavior. Mistaking one for the other, she says, leads to dishonesty and dissatisfaction. "You can behave genitally whether you feel sexual or not," Shaw notes. "Women and men can fake it. Lots of men get an erection, penetrate, and lose the erection and pretend they have had an orgasm because they want to be perfect. For many, many men -- maybe most -- problems with sex are due to ignorance, anxiety, and inability to communicate with their partners. I think sexual dysfunction is the inevitable result of the effort to attain perfection."
Sex and intimacy can be incredibly pleasurable without perfection. But it takes open, honest communication. Talk about your likes and dislikes. Talk about your goals…sometimes kissing and touching…just being close…can be incredibly intimate and satisfying without creating “performance anxiety” for either partner. However, if Erectile Dysfunction is robbing you of the intimacy you and your partner deserve and desire, talk about it together! Then talk to your doctor. There is help! There are treatments! And one of the very best is Bonro Medical’s Vacurect™.
The Vacurect™ is a patented one-piece vacuum therapy device with a documented success rate of more than 96% in creating sustainable erections in men who suffer from ED or impotency. And it comes without many of the “unintended consequences” that pills may bring. Furthermore, the non-invasive Vacurect™ is designed so that it can be used quickly and incorporated into foreplay. It is covered by Medicare. So, if you, your partner or your doctor think we can help, visit our web site at http://www.bonro.com. You can read a lot more about how the Vacurect™ works by visiting http://bonro.com/vacurect. Or give us a call, toll-free at 1-877-266-7699. And please don’t hesitate to call us with any specific questions you may have about our products, their usage and the applicable insurance coverage. We’re Bonro Medical and we’re here to help you.
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